Then the silence.

Of course your marriage evolved into a much more meaningful state. And, the dedication and loyalty that you have now doesn’t even compare.  The love has enriched and strengthened.

There truly is no comparison.  Marital love is above and beyond more rewarding and comforting.  And, in a family, of course the kids come first, in most things you do.  But, wouldn’t it be nice to mix in some excitement as a couple?

The best parenting advice anyone can give or receive is:

Keep your marriage alive and well

The majority of parents recognize the need for “together” time.  Most even attempt at making the ‘night out without the kids’ a serious thought and often an attempted gesture.  A few absolutely commit to ‘alone’ time.  Does it always help?

Not necessarily.  A night out on the town with your significant other is important, no doubt.  But, too many times parents fall into the ‘okay, now what’ trap.  Out to dinner, you have caught up on the kids, shared the office gossip or complaints of the day, discussed the weather and soon run out of things to talk about.

Instead of a dinner date, once in awhile, plan an adventure.  Pick something one or both of you have thought of doing but never dedicated the time or money for.  Maybe you have always wanted to fly in a hot air balloon, rock climb, learn to ballroom dance, join a cooking class, take a ride on a dinner boat, go deep sea fishing or anything else that might suit your fancy.

The actual event is truly the least important aspect.  What really matters is that you both are planning and preparing together.  And, you are soon creating a memory and an additional connection.  Life can become very routine.  Don’t let your marriage.

So, parenting tip :

Figure out something exciting to do.  Plan it together.  Do it together.  And, remember it together!  Keep the relationship fresh.

The adventure does not need to cost a lot of money nor does it need to require a lot of time.  The actual adventure can be running through the park, without stopping.  That might mean jogging together around the block for several weeks in preparation.  It might also mean taking the kids to the Grandparents and biking that 30 mile trail you have longed to see outside of car windows.

The whole idea is to put some excitement back into your lives.  Remember what it is what like to actually have fun together and enjoy each other’s company.  Laugh together.

Your family unit may focus on the family at every free moment you have.  Your parenting style may not always have room for the married couple.  But, you must make time.

Families are all about love and commitment.  Isn’t that a great lesson to teach your children?  Making time for yourselves, as a couple, is truly a gift to your children.  They see their parents happy.  The household is happy.  What a blessing!

Some parents also say that they really witness their childre’s changes, “My sons are exceedingly willing to have yoga class and we are talking about this all the weekend.” Every time he is going to have this class, he knows that he will meet his friends. When we are having class, so great he feels and so quiet he is.After class, he sleeps well and feels so happy. Besides, this is the game we take part in together.”

While the parent-child yago gradually began to hot, their are also some experts expressed doubts on the effectiveness of the publicity business. Some medical experts remind parents not to subject children’s heads and necks to any pressure in case that they may be injured.

When it comes down to child development there is nothing as important as beginnings. Introduction to new things is going to happen one way or the other. It is best if you take control of the “How” your child is introduced to something. This is crucial to your relationship as well as the development of the child and your child’s brain functions. Below I will explain in great detail how your child will grow into learning. The first few years of any human beings’ life is the most crucial. Thus, the importance of beginnings cannot be stressed enough!

During the time your child reaches the end of 2-3 years of age, the character of their true personality will begin to shine. Not that it is not always present, just that it becomes more prevalent, more defined. This will become more noticeable, day by day. It should be encouraged and nurtured for positive thought developments to build confidence. This is a crucial stage in brain development for every child. Also the longer, or further along the child is into their development, then the window of opportunity has closed that much more. Thinking of it like a sponge as it is sometimes referred to is quite convenient in describing exactly what I am trying to convey here.

If the sponge is already soaking up kool-aid and you are trying to fill it with orange juice there is only so much room for whichever liquid that is late.

During the toddler years they are the most impressionable and in a direct and literal way. Once you begin walking and talking, you are at the beginning of developing yourself, who you are and what is called thought patterns. Your very own ways of thinking, like snowflakes, these ‘thought patterns’ are unique unto every child. This is beyond even the strongest of habits. We all know how hard it is to break a habit, well, it is impossible to break or change a thought pattern. Which is exactly the reason why they are so important. You cannot just change your ways of thinking, your thought pattern imprint.

Or lets just say that, theoretically you can, but once they are developed naturally they are done for good.

But still you never get a second chance to have a first time experience with any given subject. Dressing up the positive things in life and introducing them as entertainment, something fun, will give a good first impression. This leaves a lasting impression and they suddenly have a positive association with these things. Consequently, this goes for negative things as well only in reverse. Of course common sense tells us that we must make the bad habits and activities as unattractive and unappealing as possible.

This is why, when our children become toddlers parenting becomes so critical, so very important. Introducing new ideas should be done in a positive light and with guidance meaning you need to be there. Parenting actively makes you mean more to them in such a simple way as guiding through first experiences. Being persistent with filling the cup is crucial, because the most benefit can be gained during this period in life.

It will never happen again and there are no second chances to recreate who you are and eventually becoming the person who you will be.Yet, during the toddler stage the brain is at the best possible position to take unlimited amounts of information and imprint them with ease.

The receptors in the brain dilate, they open up kind of like a pupil, and thought pattern imprints are stored in the brain.This is the only time allowable to make its impressions permanent, this strong, and this complete. Only during these toddler years are we able to collect our set of permanent imprints.This is the only stage in all of human development where this occurs naturally and completely. It is also said that after you develop your initial character of thought, those receptors needed for the allowing the impressions, never open up quite as much ever again. Anyway, the true focus of all of this is for the benefit of the child and future life.

The brain at this stage, is being most vulnerable to impressions and screaming for the need of them. You must do your best to fill those needs with the positive impressions. The best way to do this is with positive interaction.

Providing positive first time experiences with things will endear the mind with confidence in proceeding with it natural curiosities. This process will multiply in dimensions beyond our reasoning. Building a connection by encouraging open communication about everything and increasing positive child development. Have fun talks about everything and anything. Try including some details, of how they feel about things. If the child is pretending go with for a little while. Then, subtly cause the direction to change by your influence and steer it from there.

Allow your child the ability to act out some fantasies(healthy ones) and give props and join in the fun. Play superman, or king of the mountain games, to bond and connect with your child. During these times of play try to inject as much learning as possible. During these formative years the brain can take an unlimited amount of learning skills with plenty of room to spare.

Incorporate learning skills into everyday activities in the life of the child during these years and so on. Your childs brain is much like a sponge at that time and you will want them to soak up all they can. Parenting toddlers can be fun but is also a major challenge, due to how constant the care needs to be administered. It can be hard to keep up especially when other considerations can come into play.

Children tend to try and push the limits of our patience. They are simply learning the limit to their power and how far that can pull the chains of command. This is also vital in our parenting process. It is important to surround these years with comfortable safe feelings of creative self expression for your child. This, is so confidence can build along with child development with positive first impressions. The more the positive experiences fills the brain, the more confidence will build and then develop problem solving all naturally.

This is also what is meant by discipline without punishment. Discipline is ‘Guidance,’ and not to be confused with punishment. Parenting with positive introductions will also give your child a better chance at being successful in school, life, and other areas as well.

We all want to be good parents and learn good parenting skills. Parenting is a full time job, and sometimes it may seem like MORE than a full time job, but when it gets down to it, we have to acknowledge that as parents, we are going to make mistakes. But one of the keys to good parenting is to recognize those mistakes, accept the mistakes, and learn from the mistakes for the next time.

There are four A’s that point to traits of good parenting.

Availability

Be available for your child. Yes, these are hectic and busy times, but you should never be too busy for your child, especially when they need you. Do not only be available when they say they need you, because chances are high that they will not come right and say that. Offer yourself to them and let them know that you are available to them. Let them know that they are important to you, as they should be. Dedicate a reasonable amount of your time each day to spending it with them. Do not just give them the “leftovers” when you are dog tired from a day at work, but give them quality time. That might even be just watching their favorite TV program with them or reading them a book or going for a short walk with them. It does not necessarily mean to spend money on them, because one of the best things you can give them will not cost you a cent – your love for them, where you show it and they can feel it and know it.

Appreciation

The most powerful drive towards good behavior in children is in being appreciated. When a child does well at something, express your appreciation for them. When they do something nice for you, show your appreciation for that. Everyone likes to be appreciated, and children are especially sensitive to this. Appreciation also helps them make that maturing determination of what is right and what is wrong, based on how appreciated they feel. The more you appreciate their good deeds, the more their behavior will be in line with what you want and expect.

Affection

All of us wants to be loved, especially children. They are constantly searching for ways in which they can be loved by you. You are their focal point and they want to please you by their very nature. You need to be aware that love is the basis and foundation of a lasting relationship.

Acceptance

Everyone wants to be accepted and children are no different. You should go out of your way to show they unconditional acceptance. This provides them with a level of self-worth and helps to keep their self-esteem level high. It also gives them a sense of security in the act of acceptance. If you as their parent cannot accept them, then nobody else will either, and they realize this.

Good parenting is a skill that is learned over time, and with mistakes. Learn from the mistakes and set guidelines to be the best parent you can be.

Luckily, I nixed that idea or I’m afraid the experience would have kept us childless forever. Someone else’s child is bratty, stinky, demanding, squawking, a noisy nuisance …all of these things and sometimes at once. But your own is the little thing you’re sworn to protect. So, given that your attitude changes when it’s your baby, what parenting skills are most necessary?

Patience

Probably the greatest parenting skill is the one that keeps you from screaming or throwing a baby across the room when he has been crying for a few hours straight. The good news is that being a dad puts a lot into perspective and places where you lost your cool before are easier to manage. Never downplay your own anxieties if you feel you can’t control your emotions. Everyone has moments where they think they might lose it. If you think you are about to do something dangerous, call for help immediately.

Sense of humor

Keep laughing through all of it and repeating that it’s short and will end soon, and you’ll be surprised at how quickly diaper changing becomes a mere memory. Parents who are able to laugh when their hands are knuckle deep in a diaper genie are better able to weather the stress of sleepless nights and the drudgery of feeding-wiping-washing-swaddling.

Consistency

Despite how babies seem to rule the house from the moment you bring them home, they actually thrive on consistency in routines. If you feed them and give them naps at the same time every day, they will be more secure and cry less. As they grow older, more routine (brushing teeth, family meals, daily piano practice and so on) gives them structure. Too much choice is hard for littler kids. This puts a big responsibility on parents who need to be present to “nag” about all the things kids need to focus on. There is a big payoff. Older kids appreciate this effort.

Real skills out of a book
Changing a diaper, making formula, installing a car seat – all of these things take real learning to accomplish and do over and over again. The early baby years are all about learning a ton of new information and studying small print to build things for your baby or even feed him the right amount of medicine.

Love and affection

Whether you call it a parenting skill or not, love and affection is the most important thing for your newborn baby. Many studies indicate that physical contact between parent and child is important for development. Dads, because they will engage in down on the floor “rough and tumble play,” play an especially important role in developing kids growing social skills. You’ll hear many people challenge this idea and suggest that babies need to be “toughened up” by letting them cry themselves to sleep or even go without a bottle to stay on a rigid schedule. This is plain wrong. While some animal babies are able to fend for themselves very quickly after they are born, the human baby is meant to be nurtured and protected for quite some time after birth. For example, human baby brains alone are only half the size they will be just one year after birth. Some say human babies complete gestation period should really be 21 months, combining nine months in the womb and another 12 months after birth. Babies need physical attention as much as possible during this time period, as well as for many years beyond. There is no such thing as loving a child “too much.”

Luckily for you, many of these parenting skills come naturally to new dads if you’re able to grow with the role of being a dad.